I'm Sorry....But...No...

Not a chance in hell...

Given my last post I'm obviously previously upset by a certain someone. To steal my sisters funny line..."we'll call him Jon, because that is his name" Previous post...self explanatory...

So, Sunday...Jon had Boston for the day while I worked which is pretty much the weekly thing unless I don't work Sundays which...I seem to work every one. (Gonna have to have a chat with someone about that). Anyways, it was all fine and dandy. I ended up having to work a little late because of a meeting. No big deal. I told Jon that he would have to take Boston home and put him to bed. No big deal. I ended up getting off earlier than I thought and made it home before he had put Boston to bed, which meant....he was still there. No big deal. THEN...here's the kicker...wait for it....wait for it...

Jon said that he was planning on going up to Fargo ON Christmas. And he had fully intended to take Boston with him...

BIG DEAL!

This is where the "I'm Sorry...But...No" statement comes in. I flat out said "No". Usually with something like this I would take time and kind of consider things but....um, no.

We have nothing in writing, no kind of agreement that states that he is 'allowed' to. Now, I say 'allowed' because technically he could just take him up there and I couldn't do a damn thing about it (very scary thought) BUT....no. IF I was receiving any kind of financial support or even if the day care was being paid. I MIGHT consider it. IF he made an effort to see his child more than once a week for 8 hours, I MIGHT consider it. But...no.

But that's unfair, so I was told. No, no its not. What's unfair is the fact that you get to claim to be a loving, wonderful father to your friends and family when, if they knew the truth, they wouldn't think that. What's unfair is that your child can't TRULY have a room or a home of his own (well aware that he doesn't know the difference) because ONE income alone doesn't cut it. What's unfair is that my mother is more of a parent to him than his own father. What's unfair is that YOU have created this situation by being absent and unsupportive. Every chance and every opportunity has been offered up, but every chance and every opportunity has been ignored. At least....until it is convenient.

We'll let the courts decide what is 'fair' I guess....

That's fine though. Call me cold, call me unfair, call me selfish and money hungry. Tell your friends what a horrible bitch I am. If they have a problem with me I'd be more than happy to give them the other side of things...then we'll see what they think.

On a side note (sort of)...I have no problem with him taking Boston to see his family. Just not ON Christmas. The past 3 years he has gone up there the weekend before and never thought twice about it. Why, all of a sudden is it sooooo important to go ON the actual day? I actually promised Madison that Jon would bring Boston up to see them for Christmas/her Birthday. But...not ON Christmas.

If this week wasn't the crazy week that it is I would have meetings set up with lawyers every afternoon. THAT is how tired I am of this shit. I've let it go for way too long and apparently the benefit of the doubt has been way over used. I'm done...

Oh and...No. Period.