"IT IS THEREFORE ORDERED, ADJUDGED AND DECREED, it is in the best interest of the minor child to terminate the existing parent-child relationship between the minor child and his natural father..."
I haven't written anything on here about this because I'm still a little iffy about who reads it. At this point though, it no longer matters. Soo....
As some may already know we petitioned to terminate Jon's parental rights. He was personally served on June 30th (at precisely 7:04PM) lol This petition gave a hearing date and contact information for him to use in case he wanted to fight the termination. He was allowed 20 days to respond. We heard NOTHING. On July 21st he was sent a 10 day notice, this notice was sent to 3 different addresses, just to cover all the bases. This allowed him 10 more days to respond/fight/argue/lawyer up...anything. We heard NOTHING. 30 days to fight for his child....
The hearing was set for August 6th at 8:30AM. Essentially giving him 36 days....
He didn't show up....back to that in a second...
The week leading up to the hearing I became a little worried that he may pull the idiotic move of just straight showing up to fight. When I say "a little worried" I mean "horribly terrified".
Also leading up to the hearing I received a text from a friend. It included a picture. A picture of a bracket. This bracket showed that Jon had won first place in some tournament. First place paid out $9,500. I did a little more digging and found out that that particular tournament ran from June 22nd until August 1st....in Vegas.
So you're losing your rights to your child and you fly off to Vegas for a tournament....lovely.
Anyways, my family...my amazing family came to support me for the hearing. I was on the verge of puking the entire time but managed to hold it together. nervous he was going to show up at any moment. Unfortunately, they were unable to come into the court room with me, which Holly was very upset about lol It all got started about 8:40AM. Jon never came. This is both a good thing and a sad thing. I'm still having troubles processing the whole thing and don't think its totally gone through yet.
I was put on the stand and asked a series of questions from my lawyer. Mostly "yes" or "no". There were a few exhibits we went through; the original custody/child support decree, a list of previous payments, a list of missed payments, and a list of previous contact/visitations. I was asked why I thought it would be in the best interest of Boston for rights to be terminated and I broke down and could barely talk. I don't remember exactly what I said but I know it was hard to get through. Imagining that man walking in and out of his life and screwing with my child. Makes me angry just typing it out.
It ended, the judge ruled (hence the opening quote). Now we're waiting on the adoption papers to be filed.
Like I said...I'm still unsure of how to feel. I'm ecstatic that it is over but I hate that it had to even happen. I was numb the rest of the day Thursday and part of the day Friday. Randomly started crying and I couldn't even figure out why. Relief? Sadness? Anger? Happiness? I couldn't figure it out. Still can't.
I kept catching myself staring at Boston...in awe and wonder...
Some people have said they feel sorry for Jon, in that he has no idea what he's missing. He has no idea how to be a father. He just has no clue.
I do not feel sorry for you at all. You've done this to yourself. You've done this to your child(ren). You've decided that there are more important things. You've decided to live an empty life.
And I can only imagine that is what life would be like without Boston. Empty. Completely empty.
This child is my life. My heart. My Godsend. My reason. My everything.
And now I can say...he is MINE. 100% You can't hurt him the way you've hurt your daughter. If he ever wants to know you, I will not stop him. If he ever asks about you, I will not lie. But until that day, you will not tear him apart with your empty promises. It will not happen and I will not be stuck putting the pieces back together. This child is too good, too pure to let you take that away from him.
He will be OK. He will be happy. He will be strong and loved and healthy. He will understand what it means to be a father. He will understand what family means and that it is the most important thing in life.
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